If she is truly sincere in doing this and not for money gain later, just let her. Set down with here, address your concerns and what you would like. Respect both your privacys. Being a full care giver is not easy.
That is so wrong. They should pay better wages. Worked in restaurants and know what they pay. Am sure slightly more now. I do not believe in sharing tips. Some work to earn the tips, other sluff knowing they are still going to get tips. Only sharing is if you work with another at a party. I know...
We were always told tell a lie and a sore will grow on your tongue. Am sure we did tell occasionally but once my sister bit her tongue and it was sore. Was so afraid to tell Mom.