[Sophia M.]

General Discussion Thread 08.07.2025​

Hey, GrayViners!

High school’s been floating through my thoughts lately—and I realized something: I’ve never been to a single reunion. Not once. I always say it’s the timing or the travel, but the truth? I’m not sure I’d know how to walk into that room. What do you even say when it’s been 10, 20, 30 years? Would they remember me? Would I want them to?

So I’m wondering:
What’s kept you from going to your high school reunions?

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Be as honest as you want. Whether it’s nostalgia, nerves, or just not your scene—we’d love to hear your take.

Here’s to old memories, honest answers, and skipping the small talk,
Sophia

 

[babycakes]

I knew very few fellow students. I left town after graduation. Besides I always hated the "click" that most students had. Rich, jocks, cheerleaders. They always they were better. The only time they acknowledged your existence was if you had something they wanted.

 

[BigSteve]

I was a bit of a loner in school. And I had substantial hearing loss, which made me seem like an oddball. Even though I reconnected with a lot of folks on Facebook, I just have no desire to meet up with them all again in person.

 

[bubbiefcookie]

Didn't fit in while in high school... Why would it be different at a reunion. No desire.

 

[RoyzToyz]

I attended and served on many high school reunion committees. One year I was put in charge of procuring both the major and minor door prizes. I was able to obtain enough door prizes that each classmate that attended the reuion was able to go home with a prize. I belive the final number was close to 75 gifts. Our class had 301 members . I no longer attended my high school reunions due to me not being able to drive because of a disability. It was fun while it lasted.

 

[Litlhottie]

Im 61 and I've never attended one of mine either. I am on Facebook and I have most of my high school friends on there. They remember me and I'm forever grateful for each and every one of them

 

[NIBOR0]

I didn't participate in sports so no connect there. I pretty much kept to myself. We moved my Sophomore year so I attended a new high school. Was never good at making friends. I usually had a boyfriend and it was just he and I throughout the rest of my high school days plus I worked nights and weekends so no time there. I'm 64 and never wanted to attend a reunion as I wouldn't know anybody there.

 

[angib55]

Reconnecting with friends. A lot of people come in from other states to the reunion. We have connected through social media but face to face is so much better. ln 2019, we had a 50 yr grade school reunion and loved seeing everyone. There were around 60 there out of 80 graduates. Our 50th high school reunion brought over 150 of us back together. California Florida Minnesota Texas NC SC Missouri and many other states all came home to Indiana for us to celebrate our milestone. lt was quite memorable and looking forward to our 55th in 2028. l have been to all but 5 of them

 

[ConnSC1945]

I went to alumni reunion at 49 years. One of classmates walked in and shook her finger at me like I was a child. Have never been back since and it's been 62 years since I graduated. Still get angry and some of things happened Senior year .. it was the unfairness of the way I was treated as a girl. Boys where thought of as being superior to females therefore different rules for things. At 80 years old only stay in contact with one friend of 70 years.

 

[Cochy]

I would to go to a class reunion, my would be in Chicago, and I am living right now in Florida, so it is a ride, I went to Chicago last year after 50 year a of absence.

 

[dkleslie52]

I have been, my late husband went with me
I won't go now, I don't drive.

 

[Betty T]

Too far away, too busy with work and family. Besides, they are still a bunch of bullies.

 

[cindyf80]

I have no good memories of high school. I went to my 20 yr reunion in fortunately a lot of seemed to be frozen in time by attitude.

 

[Gayle B.]

Other than band, orchestra and marching and pep band I wasn’t involved in anything. I had one pair of shoes for 6 years and 1 pair of sneakers. I had 3 skirts with one being my Senior Girl Scout uniform skirt and folded in the front GS signa in its little pocket. I wore my older brother’s hand me down shirts. I did wear them until 8th grade when they wouldn’t fit anymore for obvious reasons. I was a so-so student who hated school. I couldn’t possibly be a part of a clique. Didn’t have the clothes for it or the attitude they seemed to have about fellow students. I graduated halfway through my senior year. I was waiting for my 18th birthday so that I could join the Air Force. I never looked back. I had no interest whatsoever in reunions! I would feel like a big hypocrite if I did attend. Except for my 1 friend there wouldn’t be anyone I cared to see or hear about what was going on in their lives nor would I wish to share mine with them. I look at it like I survived a lousy time in my life and why would I want to look back at any of it fondly, which I guess what reunions are all about.

 

[Whisper]

I have no desire to go to my high school reunion./ Why should I drop a large amount of money to sit in a bar. I don't drink and think it would be a waste of money and time.

 

[Hazeleyes]

I never went to my senior prom as a few weeks before the prom I broke up with my boyfriend. I was also robbed at school. They took my school ring, a double Pearl ring from my godparents and a custom made bracelet from my father. So I have never gone to any of my high school reunions.

 

[Sophia M.]

I knew very few fellow students. I left town after graduation. Besides I always hated the "click" that most students had. Rich, jocks, cheerleaders. They always they were better. The only time they acknowledged your existence was if you had something they wanted.

It sounds like you made the right choice for yourself, @babycakes. Some high school groups could win gold medals in cliquishness, and I hope you have found better company since then.

 

[Sophia M.]

I was a bit of a loner in school. And I had substantial hearing loss, which made me seem like an oddball. Even though I reconnected with a lot of folks on Facebook, I just have no desire to meet up with them all again in person.

I get what you mean, @BigSteve. Facebook reunions come with zero awkward silences and you can log out anytime, which is not a bad deal at all.

 

[Sophia M.]

Didn't fit in while in high school... Why would it be different at a reunion. No desire.

That makes perfect sense, @bubbiefcookie. If it was not fun the first time, there is no reason to try it again. You have already graduated from that chapter.

 

[Sophia M.]

I attended and served on many high school reunion committees. One year I was put in charge of procuring both the major and minor door prizes. I was able to obtain enough door prizes that each classmate that attended the reuion was able to go home with a prize. I belive the final number was close to 75 gifts. Our class had 301 members . I no longer attended my high school reunions due to me not being able to drive because of a disability. It was fun while it lasted.

Seventy-five prizes is reunion legend status, @RoyzToyz. I am sure people still talk about it, and you definitely left your mark.