In the swirling vortex of political gossip and public scrutiny, former First Lady Michelle Obama has stepped forward to set the record straight on the whispers of marital discord and her notable absences from significant events.

The GrayVine is here to unpack the details and offer a deeper look into the personal choices of one of America's most admired women.



The rumor mill went into overdrive when Michelle Obama was conspicuously absent from former President Jimmy Carter's funeral and President Donald Trump's inauguration.

Speculation was rife, with every living former president and their spouses in attendance at Carter's funeral, except for Michelle. The intrigue deepened when it was discovered she was vacationing in Hawaii at the time, a decision that raised many an eyebrow.

Her absence from Trump's inauguration only added fuel to the fire, with the public and media alike questioning the state of the Obama marriage.

Social media buzzed with theories when Barack Obama posted a birthday photo of the couple that seemed to show them distanced from each other, and sightings of Michelle in deep conversation with her brother, Craig Robinson, without Barack in sight, did little to quell the rumors.



After months of speculation, Michelle Obama finally addressed the absences in an episode of actress Sophia Bush's podcast, Work in Progress. With refreshing candor, she revealed that her decisions were made for herself, not as a reflection of her marriage's health.

“That's the thing that we as women, I think we struggle with disappointing people,” Michelle expressed, highlighting the societal pressure that often leads to misconstrued interpretations of a woman's independent choices.



She also said that people questioned "that this couldn't be a grown woman just making a set of decisions for herself, right?"

She emphasized the importance of making decisions for oneself, especially as a woman who has spent years in the public eye, supporting her husband's political career.

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"So you know, now is the time for me to start asking myself these hard questions of who do I truly want to be every day," Michelle said, adding it looks like "whatever I want it to look like."

This includes giving speeches and advocating for girls' education, a cause dear to her heart since her time in the White House.

Michelle and Barack Obama have been married since 1992, and while they may not be as omnipresent in the public eye as they once were, their commitment to each other remains steadfast.



She has also been open about the challenges they've faced, particularly during Barack's presidency, when their young daughters needed them most.

She shared that there were years that were tough on their marriage, a candid admission that resonates with many who understand that even the strongest relationships face trials.



Barack himself has humorously admitted to being in a “deep deficit” with his wife after his presidency, sharing his efforts to plan dates and write his book as ways to reconnect and make up for lost time.

"Look, I was in a deep deficit with my wife, so I have been trying to dig myself out of that hole by doing occasionally fun things," Barack said.





“People think I’m being catty by saying this - it’s like, there were 10 years where I couldn’t stand my husband,” Michelle confessed during an interview on Revolt TV. “And guess when it happened? When those kids were little.”

She said that marriage is never even, and that "I would take 10 bad years over 30, it’s just how you look at it," she said in the 2023 interview.

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