I also have my way of tipping at a restaurant, it can really upset me when I get called hun, sweetie, . Maybe they think there is nothing wrong with it, but I do let them know I don't like being called that and I tell them my name. Same at checking out a grocery store, and now the checker knows...
Wish I could communicate without stumbling over my words. Which means I become loss for words when I do try to communicate. So if you don't see me here responding much, its that I don't know what to say, but how to say it.