Are you being tested on dates? One woman’s story has the internet buz
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First dates can already be nerve-racking, but for one woman, an otherwise ordinary evening took an unexpected—and unsettling—turn.
After a pleasant dinner, her date slid the check toward her and asked, "Is it alright if you pay for this?"
Not wanting to make a scene, she agreed.
That’s when he grinned and told her, "Congratulations, you passed the test! You’re not a gold digger."
Yes, you read that right.
The "gold digger test" raises eyebrows
Apparently, this wasn’t a fluke.
The man later admitted that he regularly uses this "test" to weed out women who might be after his money—a habit he says stems from a bad past relationship.
But instead of earning points for cleverness, he quickly lost her respect.
"You’re not some prize that I need to pass tests for," she told him, adding that his behavior made her feel judged, not valued.
She later shared the experience online, sparking an avalanche of reactions.
Many were outraged, calling the tactic manipulative and immature.
One commenter wrote, "If he needs to test someone, maybe he’s not ready to date."
Another added, "If he’s accusing women of being gold diggers, he better have some gold."
Also read: From flirty texts to graceful goodbyes—how AI can support your love life at any age
Why games like this don’t belong in dating
For many, dating is about building trust, not playing mind games.
Secret tests like this often say more about the tester’s insecurities than the other person’s character.
And let’s be honest—who wants to go on a date just to be put under a microscope?
Open communication is always the better approach.
If finances are a concern, discuss them. If you prefer to split the bill, say so.
What matters is honesty and mutual respect, not traps and tricks.
Also read: Where love begins: 12 first-date stories that you’ll fall in love and laugh with
The bill debate: A tale as old as time
The question of who pays has long been part of dating culture.
Traditionally, men often picked up the tab.
Today, many prefer to split the check or take turns.
What’s most important is that both people feel comfortable with the arrangement.
It’s not about passing a test—it’s about sharing a moment.
Know the signs: Warning signs to watch for
The "gold digger test" is one of many warning signs that can show up early in dating.
Others include:
You deserve to be treated with dignity and kindness.
If something feels off, it probably is!
Read next: Protect your heart and wallet: The truth behind the romance scam claiming countless victims
Have you ever been put through a "test" on a date? How do you feel about splitting the bill or dating etiquette in general? We’d love to hear your stories and thoughts. After all, the only test you should have to pass on a date is whether you enjoy each other’s company!
After a pleasant dinner, her date slid the check toward her and asked, "Is it alright if you pay for this?"
Not wanting to make a scene, she agreed.
That’s when he grinned and told her, "Congratulations, you passed the test! You’re not a gold digger."
Yes, you read that right.
Navigating the world of modern dating can bring unexpected surprises—sometimes not the good kind. Image Source: Pexels / Katerina Holmes.
The "gold digger test" raises eyebrows
Apparently, this wasn’t a fluke.
The man later admitted that he regularly uses this "test" to weed out women who might be after his money—a habit he says stems from a bad past relationship.
But instead of earning points for cleverness, he quickly lost her respect.
"You’re not some prize that I need to pass tests for," she told him, adding that his behavior made her feel judged, not valued.
She later shared the experience online, sparking an avalanche of reactions.
Many were outraged, calling the tactic manipulative and immature.
One commenter wrote, "If he needs to test someone, maybe he’s not ready to date."
Another added, "If he’s accusing women of being gold diggers, he better have some gold."
Also read: From flirty texts to graceful goodbyes—how AI can support your love life at any age
Why games like this don’t belong in dating
For many, dating is about building trust, not playing mind games.
Secret tests like this often say more about the tester’s insecurities than the other person’s character.
And let’s be honest—who wants to go on a date just to be put under a microscope?
Open communication is always the better approach.
If finances are a concern, discuss them. If you prefer to split the bill, say so.
What matters is honesty and mutual respect, not traps and tricks.
Also read: Where love begins: 12 first-date stories that you’ll fall in love and laugh with
The bill debate: A tale as old as time
The question of who pays has long been part of dating culture.
Traditionally, men often picked up the tab.
Today, many prefer to split the check or take turns.
What’s most important is that both people feel comfortable with the arrangement.
It’s not about passing a test—it’s about sharing a moment.
Know the signs: Warning signs to watch for
The "gold digger test" is one of many warning signs that can show up early in dating.
Others include:
- Secret tests or manipulation: If someone is setting traps rather than building a connection, take note.
- Comparing you to an ex: You're not their past partner, and you shouldn't be treated like a stand-in.
- Lack of respect or poor communication: If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, don't ignore it.
You deserve to be treated with dignity and kindness.
If something feels off, it probably is!
Read next: Protect your heart and wallet: The truth behind the romance scam claiming countless victims
Have you ever been put through a "test" on a date? How do you feel about splitting the bill or dating etiquette in general? We’d love to hear your stories and thoughts. After all, the only test you should have to pass on a date is whether you enjoy each other’s company!
