[Sophia M.]

Front Porch Forum: “Is it strange to consider housemates or new friendships in my 70s or just a second chance at joy?” (09/13/2025)​

An old pot—but still room to grow? Image source: Pexels

Pull up a seat, GrayViners! “An Empty Nest With Room to Grow” is wondering if it’s ever too late to start fresh—whether by welcoming a housemate, joining a club, or simply planting new roots in familiar soil. What do you think: is blooming again always possible?

Hi all,

After my husband passed and the kids moved out, the silence in this house became thick. At first, I welcomed it. I needed quiet to grieve, to breathe, to figure out who I was without them. But now, years later, I find myself talking to the kettle and watching TV just to hear a voice.

Last week, a friend of a friend mentioned she was looking for a housemate—someone to share expenses and maybe a few cups of tea. My first instinct was to say no. I’m too old to live with a stranger. But then I remembered how lively it once felt to have someone else in the kitchen, to hear another pair of footsteps in the hallway.

I’m also thinking of joining a book club or maybe taking a class, something that lets me meet people beyond family functions and doctor appointments. I want to laugh again. I want to tell stories that aren’t always about who I used to be.

Is it too late to grow new roots in an old pot? Or is this what it looks like to bloom again?

Curious and cautiously hopeful,
An Empty Nest With Room to Grow

What about you, GrayViners? Have you ever embraced change later in life—taking on a housemate, joining a new group, or building a new circle of friends? Did it bring joy, challenges, or both? Share your experiences and advice below. And if you’re standing at a crossroads of your own, start a conversation here.

 

[NIBOR0]

Go for it! You can always move again if needed.

 

[sadieclayladie]

I get it, I hear you! My situation was different as I had to take Disability at age 56 because my body decided chronic diseases and skeletal issues might be a fun change in my life..........(sarcasm) I was too young for most Senior activities but my whole working world had been caring, nursing, hospice, etc. with Seniors so I am comfy in that aspect. Right off I looked up Senior activities in my area and hooked up with the nearest Senior Center. I now go there weekly for lunch or dinner and stay to play games, (I enjoy Trivial Persuit, Mexican Train and Scrabble) I was a sculptor way back when so I also signed up for their clay classes---all levels in there and no criticism. I found a new church family. I also volunteer at the Men's Mission helping to serve meals-----some live there and work, some folks pop in for dinner. They run a cafe open 6 days per week and have Thanksgiving and Christmas feasts. Anyone is welcome. Saint Vincent De Paul always appreciates Volunteers. Our Parks and Recreation Program has swimming and exercise classes some of which are covered by my health insurance that has the Silver Sneakers Program. (Swimming is ideal in soothing my arthritis!) They also have scheduled day trips to various state parks, waterfalls, museums, etc. I also provide companionship to those in care homes and hospice. I'm busy when want to be and not stringently committed when I need to retreat for awhile. I hope that I've planted a few seeds for you to consider. Also, you might check out things to do at your local library and Red Cross if that appeals to you. There is AARP that offers movies, gatherings, and various discounts. It's never too late, my friend. If/when you decide to sign up for any activities, I'm betting you will meet some great people and probably a very good prospective roommate! Many Blessings and have some fun!