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Front Porch Forum: “Should I tell my friend that their bad breath is putting people off at our social gatherings?” (09/11/2025)​

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Gather 'round, GrayViners! Today's letter sender is in a bit of a pickle and dealing with a sensitive issue. Read their letter below:

Hi all,

I'm really hoping someone can help shed some light on a tricky situation that I've been fretting over for a while. I get together regularly with a lovely group of friends; we've known each other for years, and these catch-ups mean the world to me.

The problem is, one of our friends (I'll call her "Margaret") seems to have developed bad breath lately. It's become pretty noticeable, to the point where I've seen people subtly step back when she joins a conversation or exchange awkward glances. A few others in the group have mentioned it to me privately, so I know it's not just my imagination.

We don't want to hurt Margaret's feelings, but I can tell it's affecting how comfortable everyone feels at our gatherings. I don't know whether it's kinder to say something (discreetly and kindly, of course), or if I should just stay out of it and hope this all goes away on its own. I don't want Margaret to feel embarrassed or singled out, but I also don't want her to feel excluded if people start avoiding her because of this.

Should I have a word with her, or is it none of my business? If so, how do I bring it up without causing offense?

Thanks in advance.

Kind regards,

Concerned Friend

Well, if you were in their shoes, what would YOU do? Let everyone know in the comments! Got a concern you need advice on? Share your stories here.

 

[hawaiimegrl]

If I was the one with the Bad Breath I would want to know. As much as she might feel embarrassed I think it’s all in where she’s made aware it and how you word it. Maybe meet for lunch that way it would be just the two of you. Be kind but also concerned because she could have a medical problem that’s causing it and maybe she needs to discuss it with her Dr. Especially if the bad breath is something that’s happened recently. It would be a kindness and also being a good friend to let her know.