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Front Porch Forum: “Was it wrong to tell my grown son that his father cheated years ago?” (10/21/2025)​

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Pull up a seat, GrayViners. “The Late-Night Confession” has done something she can’t take back — and now she’s questioning whether honesty was healing or harmful. What would you do if a truth from decades ago began tearing your family apart?

Hi all,

I did something last week that I can’t stop thinking about. My son and I were talking late at night over tea. He’s forty-five now, with children of his own. We started reminiscing about his childhood, and somehow the conversation turned to my marriage. Without meaning to, I told him that his father had been unfaithful early on.

It just slipped out. I’d never told anyone before. My husband and I moved past it decades ago. He begged forgiveness, and we rebuilt what was broken. But in that moment, I was tired, emotional, and maybe looking for understanding. I didn’t think about the weight of what I was sharing until I saw my son’s face.

He looked stunned, then angry. He said, “I always thought Dad was different.” Now he barely speaks to his father, and my husband doesn’t know why. I’ve created a rift that may never close.

I wanted honesty, but I think I’ve caused harm instead. Should I tell my husband what I said and try to fix it, or keep quiet and pray time will heal what I’ve undone?

Regretfully,
The Late-Night Confession

What do you think, GrayViners? Is honesty always the right choice even when it reopens old wounds? Should “The Late-Night Confession” come clean to her husband, or let sleeping truths lie? Share your thoughts below, and if you’ve got a story or question of your own, start a new conversation here.