[Ally Castillo]

Front Porch Forum: "A Caring Neighbor" (07/10/2025)​

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Hello, GrayViners! We're back with another letter from a troubled citizen, and they could really use your help! Here's what they sent us:

Hello, GrayVine!

I hope you can shed some light on a situation that's been worrying me. I live on a quiet suburban street, and for the past weeks, I’ve noticed that the mail has been piling up in my next-door neighbor’s letterbox. Normally, she’s quite prompt at collecting it every day (I see her on my morning walks), but I haven’t caught sight of her for a little while now.

We’re on friendly terms, but we’re not especially close. She lives alone, and I don’t know if she has any local family to check in on her. The situation is starting to play on my mind, and I worry that something might have happened. At the same time, I don’t want to overstep my boundaries.

Should I be concerned about the mail? Is it appropriate for me to knock on her door or try to contact someone else? Or am I just overreacting and should mind my own business? I’d hate to ignore it if she needed help, but I also don’t want to cause a racket without good reason.

Your advice would be greatly appreciated.

Kind regards,

A Caring Neighbor

It's a short and sweet letter, but nonetheless serious. What would you do if you were in their shoes? Don't hesitate to share your thoughts below. Want to share your own troubles with us anonymously? Start a conversation here.

 

[angib55]

Definitely need to and see if she is home. Check in the windows. lf nothing else contact the police for a welfare check

 

[Arkie98]

I would call the police and ask them to do a welfare check. Explain as to what you know.

 

[TriciaR]

Definitely need to and see if she is home. Check in the windows. lf nothing else contact the police for a welfare check

Thank you for your thoughtful response @angib55 . I agree — sometimes a simple knock or quick check can make all the difference. And if there’s still concern after that, a welfare check is a caring and sensible next step. It’s always better to be safe than to regret not acting, especially when someone lives alone. Thanks again for sharing your perspective!

 

[TriciaR]

I would call the police and ask them to do a welfare check. Explain as to what you know.

Thanks so much for your input @Arkie98 . Calling the police for a welfare check can feel like a big step, but in a situation like this, it’s absolutely the right thing to consider. Explaining what you’ve observed — like the uncollected mail and the change in routine — can help them assess the situation properly. Your advice could really help someone in a similar position make the right call.

 

[Gayle B.]

As a caring neighbor, might I suggest you call the police department. Tell them your story and ask if they can do a wellness check. If something is wrong with her they will know exactly what to do.