Flirting is something many people do without even realizing it, but how skilled are you really?

Psychology Today has created a quick five-minute test to help you find out.

The quiz is based on scientific research and measures your natural flirting tendencies.

Whether you're an expert or completely unaware, it’s designed to reveal your true flirting style.



According to Psychology Today, there are five flirting styles: physical, playful, polite, sincere, and traditional.

Physical flirts use body language to show interest, while playful flirts treat it like a fun game.

Polite flirts are cautious and respectful, whereas sincere flirts aim for real emotional connection.

Traditional flirts tend to follow classic gender roles when it comes to initiating contact.


The quiz contains 20 statements such as “When flirting, I typically make more eye contact than usual” or “When flirting, I often toss my hair.”

Users are asked to rate how strongly they agree or disagree with each statement.

At the end, participants receive a score out of 100 and a breakdown of what their number means.

The average score for women is 68, and for men, it’s 66.



Scoring between 0 and 24 means you’re likely not a flirty person and may miss cues from others.

A score between 25 and 39 suggests you’re subtly flirtatious but prefer to keep things understated.

If you land between 40 and 59, you flirt occasionally depending on the context.

Scoring between 60 and 68 indicates moderate flirtation—you’re charming but not over the top.



If your score falls between 69 and 86, you likely have a flirtatious personality and know how to build romantic tension.

Scoring between 87 and 100 classifies you as a master flirt—someone who naturally understands and uses the language of romance.

However, experts warn this can sometimes lead others on if not used thoughtfully. With great charm comes the need for social awareness.

If your score wasn’t what you hoped, researchers say flirting can be improved with the right approach.



A 2022 study from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology examined what works best across genders.

For men, being funny and generous were the most effective flirting techniques. For women, appearing sexually available and laughing at their partner’s jokes were top indicators of success.

Experts noted that the effectiveness of a flirting style depends on the desired outcome—whether it's a long-term relationship or a casual connection.

Women responded more to generosity and humor, while men favored visible interest and playful engagement.



Confidence, clarity, and authenticity are the most attractive traits regardless of gender or age. Flirting, like any skill, improves with practice and intent.

Contrary to popular belief, flirting is not just for the young or single. Older adults often report increased confidence and stronger communication skills in social settings.

Flirting can simply be about sparking joy, sharing a smile, or connecting over a conversation.

It doesn’t always need to lead to romance—sometimes it’s just a fun and uplifting interaction.

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So—how flirty are you, really? Take the five-minute quiz on Psychology Today’s website and see where you land. Do your results reflect your real-life interactions, or did they surprise you? Share your score and your thoughts in the comments—we’d love to know how you see yourself in the world of flirting.